Thursday, April 17, 2008

Why Private??

A lot of things have led up to me going private. First, I was averaging 100 hits a day and only 6 comments (if that). I started to get a little wierded out not knowing who was looking and my situation is different than most. To give you a little background.... As you all know I am raising my sister and brother. They are the BEST kids and I am so grateful to be in the position to take on this HUGE and SPECIAL responsibility. Along with all that, has been some drama. Our Dad is still alive. He has made horrible choices in his life that have cost him relationships with his children. For the record, I believe in forgiveness and that people can change but he NEVER has. He has been doing the same old stuff for over 20 years. Am I supposed to continue to get hurt and taken advantage of? Am I supposed to allow Baylee and Griffin too and my own children?? I don't think so. I am NOT a confrontational person. I like to keep the peace. I have a hard time not pleasing everyone around me but I have been put in situations where I have had to STAND UP for what is best for ME and MY FAMILY and MY SIBLINGS. I am at peace. I feel like I am living my life the best I know how too and helping the children in my life do the same. I continue to receive pressure from my Dad's family to include him in my life but he has LOST those privileges and done NOTHING to gain them back. In fact, in my eyes it is too late now. I have gone PRIVATE to protect myself and my family. I don't need or want people looking into my personal life that don't deserve it. I love blogging and I think my next post will be reasons why I blog!

But to add to the drama... yesterday I took Baylee to get her learners permit at the DMV and they won't let her get one because I don't have court ordered legal guardianship. I only have my Mom's will. They gave me a number to call to see if there is any way they will accept the will and the number was not legitate. I'm so frusterated! We don't deserve this and niether does Baylee. Hopefully we can get something figured out. I'll keep you posted.

14 comments:

Rodeback Crew said...

Karlin, I think you are amazing! Good luck with the DMV permit mess.

Amelia said...

Wow! You deal with so much. I hope that everything works out, I'll bet you can get legal guardianship, what a pain though! PS Thanks for the invite, your family are adorable and it always helps to see moms with young families going through the same things as me!

Shaundee said...

Karlin..
What an amazing person you are. You handle things so well. You are handling your situation with love and acceptence. You can tell how much your brother and sister love you and Jason. They are lucky to have family like you. Keep being strong...you are such an example to me. Talk to you soon!

The Shupe Ohana said...

Karlin.
you are seriously amazing! i am sorry about your dad, what a tough situation. you are an amazing example to me. i hope everything works out with baylee and her license, that is devastating to a 16 year old anxiously waiting to get that. anyways i love ya, you truly are amazing.
susie

janet said...

you are a superstar, that's for sure! and you are doing SUCH a great job with everyone. Things will work out with Baylee and her license... but it's such a pain! Love ya!

DEE said...

Geez Karlin- so sorry. Good choice though. Maybe I should go private too- I get about 100 per day too, and few comments- too many blasts from the past I guess :)

Baylee- driving isn't all its cracked up to be :)

Liz said...

Karlin,

I believe you are truly amazing. You are so strong and I'm so thankful to know you. I'm sorry for the situation you are dealing with. I hope everything will turn out with the dmv. That place is a nightmare even with the "PROPER" identication...

Take Care!

karlin said...

I just wanted to thank everyone for their nice comments. I really didn't write that to fish for compliments. It's just the reality of the situations but thank you!

Sara Decker said...

I think going private is really smart in your case, sorry you have to go through all of that. You are still the strongest person I know for all you do!

California Roney's said...

Hey friend, I just had a quick question. What is going on with Josie? She hasn't been at school and I heard she was on medical leave!! Is she okay???? Ella is so worried about her. She loves her so so much!

Di said...

I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. Family difficulties are never fun. I think it's awesome you took on the responsibility of raising your siblings!

summer said...

I think it is good to go private Karlin. Especially in your situation. Oh no Kar... I hope everything gets worked out with Baylee!!! You are SO wonderful and I know that it will all turn out OK! Your mom is still looking out for all of you!!!

Tracy said...

I want to know how many hits a day my blog is averaging. How do I do that?

val said...

Karlin you are totally superwoman. You take such good care of your family and love them so much. They are so lucky to have you.
Good luck with Baylee's permit. Darn.