Friday, November 9, 2007

HELP!

AAAH! Maybe I shouldn't be posting right now because I am so FRUSTERATED! I have been potty training Avaree since July and she is still not potty trained. She averages at least an accident a day and she always saves her #2 for nap time. Just after her 3rd birthday in September I thought we had it. We had about a week of her doing it on her OWN but after our little trip to California in October she has completely regressed. Prizes, candy, presents, rewards don't work anymore. I've even tried the cold baths/showers when she has accidents... not working. What do I do? I don't want to go back to diapers but we can't go anywhere, I am washing out clothes and poo everyday. I am seriously on the verge of tears all the time. I am trying to stay patient and calm but she knows better. I don't know what to do! HELP! Any suggestions??

8 comments:

Sara Decker said...

I wish i had good advice, but I don't. Bennett took awhile, but we are doing ok for now. It worked for me to keep him naked on the bottom for awhile. He wouldnt have any accidents, but it is probably too cold to have her do that there. Does she want diapers on? She might be annoyed if you put one on her and then she might want to go back to underwear, or with Bennett he pooped his pants for a while and he would get in trouble...something taken away or he would have to go in his room with the door shut (which he hates.) He stopped doing that after a while. Good luck.......

Anonymous said...

sara, thanks for the advice. Avaree actually does best when she doesn't have anything on. After today, I thought I am going to try putting a diaper back on her and take away big girl privilages until she is ready to be a big girl?? I don't know. I'm jealous that Bennett is doing well but happy for you too.

Francine said...

Oh, Karlin, I'm so sorry. What happened when you gave her a cold bath? Maybe taking away big girl priveledges like you said will work. You are doing such a good job. Avaree is so lucky to have you as her mom. I'll let you know if I hear of any good tips.

Amelia said...

Hi Karlin, found you through Janet's blog...I don't know if you remember me, but anyway I felt so sad for you reading your post. I live in Scotland and they seem to be a little more laid back about the whole thing, if she is having accidents, put the diaper on forget about it and try again in two weeks. It will give you a chance to relax and her too, I'll bet she'll be excited to try again then. About the number 2, when we knew she needed one, we'd put the potty in front of the tv and make her sit there until it came! Good luck!

Tristie said...

Kar, so feel your pain. I have had 2 totally different experiences with P. training. One similar to yours, and then the 2nd time, I just waited and waited until my kid was ready (he well over 3) and I was a much nicer mom. It is SO frustrating to be a parent in this sitch because potty-ing is the ONE thing you have NO control over. It is ALL up the them. Keep trying to praise and reward the behavior you want, and give no extra attention to the undesirable behavior (easier said!). Pull-ups are also a gift from heaven. Also, say lots of prayers for help. You can do it.

Jill said...

Karlin, I do not envy you right now. I don't know if this will work or not, but one thing I did with Parker was we planned on staying home for a couple of days, I gave him drinks all day long and put him on the potty every 30 minutes or so, even if he didn't need to go. When he did I would make a huge deal and tell him how proud I was. Good luck!

janet said...

Isn't being a mom HARD? I absolutely hate potty training because it turns me into a grump.. I don't like being frustrated with my kids but how can you help it when you are cleaning up poop all day. DON'T compare yourself or her progress to others.. because it's just destructive. She WILL learn, I promise. Do whatever you have to do to relax about it. If that means diapers again, so be it. You need to be in control and she has to sense your frustration. Don't talk to her about it for a whole week-- don't even mention it and see if it makes a difference. Just remain calm and try to be happy and don't let THIS get you down! You are SUCH an excellent mom... put on some church music and if you feel the frustration, say a prayer. Sorry, but this was such a Bev comment... I can't help it, I am turning into my mom.

Good luck! Love you!

Kessler Krew said...

Thanks for all your advice and help on this subject. I am just going to wait a week and go from there??